The worst breakup was the one that didn’t happen

It was a Sunday afternoon, and I was having a Bumble BFF date with three girls at a wine bar in East Village (if you don’t know what Bumble BFF is, get with the times). One of the girls posed a question to the group: “What was the worst breakup you ever had?” We went around the group, and everyone had their horror stories. Then, my turn came, and I said awkwardly, that the worst breakups I’d had were probably worse for the other person, because I was a terrible breaker upper and broke up with people by text most…

Big loves and formative experiences

I took a class this semester about the history of the novel and how the practice of novel reading has changed over time. During the course, we studied a novel called ‘The Small House at Allington’ by Anthony Trollope. I’d never heard of Anthony Trollope before despite him being a prolific Victorian novelist. One of the main events in the novel is Lily’s engagement and subsequent jilting. Jilting in the Victorian era seems to be a common issue (Sense and Sensibility, although Marianne & Willoughby weren’t formally engaged). Jilting is probably the Victorian era of today’s ghosting. Unsettling, yes, but…